FEEL, Rather Than Invent

When I’m talking to my Coaching Clients, the most important thing that I always stress to them is always the importance of how you FEEL.  Feeling is the thing which is really going to create your reality, regardless of whether you want it or not. 

One of the most important things that you can focus on is the feeling of Gratitude.  However, it’s also one of the most misunderstood feelings.  Many people fall into the trap of trying to “Invent” Gratitude rather than having a genuine FEELING of Gratitude.

The most common form of inventing Gratitude is when you try to make yourself feel Gratitude by comparing yourself to someone else.  The sense that if we can think of an example of people who are worse off than us, it will somehow by default make us feel more grateful for what we have.  However this is really nothing more than artificial Gratitude, because if there are people who are worse off than you, then there are also people who are better off than you.  Also, if you only feel gratitude by comparing yourself to others, does that mean that if circumstances change that you are no longer able to feel Gratitude?

In order to have that genuine sense of TRUE Gratitude in your life, you must learn what it is to truly FEEL Gratitude, not the artificial sense that comes from comparing yourself to others, but the TRUE sense of real Gratitude that you FEEL in every part of your being.  It’s a FEELING, an ENERGY that flows through your body from the moment that you first wake in the morning until you close your eyes at night.

The good news is that you will attract into your life that which you are FEELING about NOT what you are thinking about.  So when you begin to FEEL Gratitude, The Universe will bring you more things for you to be Grateful for.

So how do you do this?  Well the process is actually quite simple.  First of all, make 2 lists.  The first is all the things that are currently in your life that you feel Grateful for.  The second list is all the things that are currently in your life that cause you pain.

Go through all the things that you have in your life to feel Grateful for and for each one, focus on them one by one.  Ask yourself how this particular thing makes you feel.  For example you may start your list with something simple, like saying that you’re Grateful for being able to feel the warmth of the Sun.  Ask yourself HOW that makes you feel.  Close your eyes and imagine what it feels like to have the Suns energy flowing through you.  Describe the feeling you get on a cool day as you step out of the shadows and FEEL that warm glow gently touch your body.  Describe how you FEEL as you start to feel the warmth surging through your body.

Do the same for everything on your list.  What are all the things that you’re Grateful for?  Your family, friends, your health, relationships, the success you have achieved so far?  Whatever it is for you, go through and complete the process for everything on your list.

Then move on to the things that are causing you pain.  Why is it causing you pain?  What would have to happen in order for that thing to no longer be a problem for you.  Choose to put yourself in the space of already having eliminated that out of your life.  How does it feel to no longer have this thing which used to cause you so much pain?  Write down how your life has changed and most importantly, write about how Grateful you FEEL about this.  Trust me, as you REALLY create the FEELINGS of genuine Gratitude for not having these things as part of your reality anymore, you will be amazed and dazzled by how quickly these things which used to cause you pain will dissolve away from your life.

The Universe will ALWAYS deliver you exactly what you are FEELING.  So go ahead, focus on the things that you want to have in your life.  Ask yourself, how you would ideally like to be FEELING on a daily basis.  Put yourself in the space of FEELING that way and then the corresponding reality of that feeling will be unavoidably drawn into your present life.